Destiny Star's Blog

It’s become somewhat clear to me that I need to make the contact policies I’ve set up for myself before starting this blog a lot more clear, because people are persistently trying to get me to violate them. I’ve put these policies into place for my own protection, as I’ve had stalkers in the past, and have already started getting creepy e-mails from people I don’t know.

First, Destiny Star and Destiny Statler (my facebook name) are both pseudonyms. Their relation to either my stage name or my real name, or both, is left to your own speculation. I do this because I don’t want people visiting me. With my name, you could probably find news stories about some of the things I’ve already talked about in my blog, or things I will in the future. I’m not OK with that.

All my stories are the truth of what happened to me, so I make it as difficult as possible for people to find me by searching news stories. If you want to crawl through four or more years of every newspaper of every town in the US trying to figure out where I live, you’re welcome to do that. I’ll be long gone by the time you’re done.

Second, I will not give any real place names, whether for the club I work at, the parish where I attend mass, the design school I’ll be attending come January, or any streets I happen to visit or mention. Again, I don’t want people tracking down where I live, especially since I’m not sure this town has a local newspaper online.

Third, the only way to contact me is via electronic means, or, once they are able to do so safely enough for my satisfaction, through the small house church which has been kind enough to set up the Destiny Scholarship Fund. I’m not going to call you. I’m not going to write you a letter, unless it is passed through that house church.

Fourth, I don’t use real names for my friends here. Miranda has never been called Miranda in real life, nor Jennifer Jennifer. My priest gets called Father all the time in real life, but so does every other Catholic priest in America.

I can easily be contacted by e-mail at destinystar22@gmail.com or at destiny@destinystarblog.com. The first of these is much more likely to get a prompt reply. The second is largely used for internal communication with the people involved in helping me with my blog or the technical side of my website. I also check my twitter direct messages and @ replies regularly, as well as facebook.

I also love to get blog comments and will reply to any that I have a relevant response to.

The rules come down to this: don’t act like a stalker, you won’t get treated like a stalker. Treat me like an online friend and I will treat you like an online friend.